Welcome to For This Reason Marriage Ministries:

We are Pastors Fred & Norma Aguilar and we are so excited to have you be a part of this powerful marriage ministry!  We have made it our mission to help couples to stay in love forever and revive their marriages.  We provide Spirit-filled, Christ-centered training and counseling "couple to couple" in the home.....where God intended His presence to abide as the foundation of our marriages. The Word of God is clear "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." Gen 2:24

WELCOME TO THE WEEKLY MESSAGE "STANDING ON GODS WORD" - 09/19/2018

Glory to The Lord & Blessings Upon You...

Pastors
Fred & Norma Aguilar

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"When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?"
"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." "Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry." Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. Matthew 19:1-11
 
We've been to a number of weddings and I have been part of effectuating weddings that include a Unity Candle, which is to symbolize two individual lives becoming "one" after the ceremony. But do they? From that day forward, do they start behaving as if they're united as a marital team as they pledge they would?
 
Unfortunate many have to confess that what they promised becomes a distant memory as life begins sliding us apart after the wedding. For some reason it never even occurred to us that we would need to be intentional in developing a "we" instead of an alone "him" and "her" after we married. We felt pretty united before the wedding and thought that would just grow and grow afterward. But that's not what happens. (And that's what appears to happen with most couples.)
 
It's not that we have to stop being a "him" and a "her" completely on our wedding day, but if our individual behavior causes problems within our marriage union we need to work on it together or the "WE" breaks apart. Otherwise, what was the purpose of marrying in the first place if we're threatened by being "cleaved together" as one?
 
Think We, Not Me, "Lovers for Life."
 
Think of the last time the mood shifted between the two of you. Perhaps it was last night when Mother called, or when you talked about money. Let me guess who you blamed for your frustration and internal upset. It wasn't yourself, so you blamed the only other person you could see, right?
 
Well, you made a critical error! Neither of you controls the mood of the relationship. The 'we' controls the atmosphere! When the two of you are allies and your spirits are united, the mood is uplifting and friendly. But when the 'we' breaks down and you are at odds with each other, the mood shifts to turbulent and upsetting. When you harbor resentment toward each other, a bad mood settles into the relationship.
 
No wonder Paul advises,
'Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace'. Ephesians 4:3
 
He uses even stronger language in Philippians 2:1-2, 'If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from His love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose.'
 
When you are 'one in spirit,' you have a safe place with each other. The mood is friendly, and you are allies. You are 'we' and are working together. It is safe to share your thoughts and feelings with each other. You can be 'soul mates.'
 
But when the 'we' breaks down, it's no longer safe! You're defensive & guarded. The relationship splits into 'you' and 'me.' There is no one in charge, and the atmosphere becomes uncertain and confusing. Both of you get your feelings hurt and end up upset and angry with each other. Since you cannot see the 'we,' you blame each other for the hurt and frustration. You think, if only he/she would not react that way. Then you spend your energy trying to change the pother person.
 
But the other person is not to blame! You cannot see the 'we,' but it does control the spirit (mood) of the relationship. When this 'one another' breaks down, the mood shifts. No wonder the apostle Paul uses the words 'one another' so often: 'Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ' (Ephesians 5:21). The 'one another' is the 'we.'
 
The deep spiritual meaning of this passage is to make the 'we' more important than the 'me.' When your feelings are hurt and you're upset, it's natural to nurse hurt feelings and seek to get even. Both of these actions put the 'me' as more important than the 'we.'
 
"So how do you do the 'unnatural' and put the 'we' above your own hurt and upset? The answer is in the aforementioned verse: 'out of reverence for Christ.' The Holy Spirit can change your attitude at this critical moment. Christ's presence has the power to change your heart and mind to make this shift from 'me' to 'we.'
 
As you pray, 'Lord, help my spirit; help change my attitude,' His Spirit will be at work in your heart to change reality. Call this a 'reality check.' Right in the midst of your desire to nurse your hurt feelings, Christ will remind you of His love and your love for one another. This will help to put the relationship in its proper place --the 'we' will become more important than the 'me.'
 
The next time the mood shifts and you are left confused, hurt and upset, try the following steps:
 
1.  Become aware that the 'we' just broke down.
2.  Stop blaming the other person.
3.  Assume that there has been a misunderstanding.
4.  Offer a prayer to get your attitude right.
5.  Approach the other person in the right spirit.
6.  Begin by saying, 'WE have a problem. Let's talk.'
7. And don't ever stop saying I Love You, no matter what!
 
Don't think this is easy! It is highly unnatural. It is more natural to assume that the other person is to blame. This is what puts the 'me' above the 'we.' So don't overlook the importance of bringing Christ into the equation. His love changes reality. His presence can make the 'we; more important than the 'me.'
 
Put the following on your refrigerator or bathroom mirror to serve as a daily reminder:
 
"SUBMIT TO ONE ANOTHER OUT OF REVERENCE TO CHIRST."
 
As Jesus said, "At the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." Mark 10:6-9
 
May you be intentional in continually working to be united in every important area of your married lives together.
 "May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ!" Romans 15:5-6

Jesus loves you so much!

 

Please if you would like more information on how to join us for prayer on the phone line, email or call and I will provide you with what you will need to join us!

 

All gifts to For This Reason Marriage Ministries are tax deductible:
 
Will you prayerfully consider supporting For This Reason Marriage Ministries with a year-end contribution in response to the blessing we have been in your life? No gift is too small. The Lord can use the $5 gift as much as He uses the $1000 gift.   
 
Your gift must be postmarked by December 31, 2016 to be credited in calendar year 2016 for tax purposes.   

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We are here to help and offer phone/ Skype counseling. Just visit the Contact Us link on our website. If we can help, please call us at (817) 605-8133 or email us to request more information on our marriage seminars, retreats that help save and build marriages.

For This Reason Marriage Ministries

P.O. Box 742

Colleyville, TX 76034

Thank you and the Lord bless you for your prayers, love and gifts of support.

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There is still a group of us gathering Monday thru Saturday for one hour of prayer at 6 am, you can join us by phone if you are interested in joining us please Contact Us so I can give you more information! Remember that is 6:00 am CST.

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For This Reason Marriage Ministries has helped countless thousands of married couples by ministering Jesus' reconciling power to the separated, the divorced, the unsaved, broken families and couples that are hurting. The proof of our ministry is in the countless married couples lives we have had the privilege to help and the husbands and wives standing for their marriage today despite their friends, family and even brothers and sisters in the Lord telling them to divorce. Divorce is not the answer and we teach couples how to reconcile, stand and believe that nothing is too great for our GOD and how to be "In Love Forever".

The biblical concept of marriage is that marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman to live together in mutual love and respect for the glory of God, until death do them part.  Marriage is not about us, so it is not about me.  It is about God and His kingdom.  God ordained marriage as the foundational unit of society and everything is built on marriage.  Marriage, done God's way, creates the safest and best environment in which to rear children and covenant principles of marriage are based on steadfast love - looking out for the interest of each other.  They are about seeking to encourage and support each other, throughout life not just when you feel like being in the covenant, because you are "in the covenant" whether you feel like it or not and so we teach to please the Lord with your love, care and commitment to Him and to your spouse.

Thank you for visiting inloveforever.org. It is our sincere desire to bring hope to your marriage situation regardless the circumstances! Below you will find a powerful weekly teaching on covenant marriage done Gods way.

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