Welcome to For This Reason Marriage Ministries:

We are Pastors Fred & Norma Aguilar and we are so excited to have you be a part of this powerful marriage ministry!  We have made it our mission to help couples to stay in love forever and revive their marriages.  We provide Spirit-filled, Messiah-centered training and counseling "couple to couple" in the home.....where the Father intended His presence to abide as the foundation of our marriages. The scripture is clear "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." Gen 2:24

WELCOME TO THE WEEKLY MESSAGE "STANDING ON YAH's WORD" - 06/12/2019

Hallelu-Yah & Blessings Upon You

Ps68:4 - Sing to Elohim, sing praises to His Name. By His Name Yah!

Pastors
Fred & Norma Aguilar

A Destructive Ex-Spouse -
 
Jill called with a question I have heard a thousand times. “My husband’s ex-wife is a very unhealthy person. She attacks us frequently in front of the kids and manipulates them constantly. How do we deal with this?”
 
Without question, one of the most menacing dynamics attacking the health of a blended family is a destructive parent in the other home. A parent, for example, with a personality disorder or drug or porn addiction is exceedingly difficult to deal with.
 
So, too, is someone who is just plain unreasonable, irresponsible, and selfish. The temptation, of course, is to get drawn into the emotional game-playing and try to out-fox the fox. But God’s Word suggests a better way.
 
In his infinite wisdom, God gives us specific instructions in the latter section of Romans 12 on how to love a difficult person. His prescription for overcoming evil is direct: overcome evil with good (verse 21). The goal, then, in spite of the hurt we experience at the hands of others, is to offer ourselves as a living sacrifice and repay evil with good. But what about revenge? Isn’t that justified?
 
“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you. For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then  give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully. Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.” Romans 12:1-19
 
It is clear that revenge is not in keeping with the mercies God has shown us (see verse 1), therefore, God is the only one who should seek vengeance. He is the only one who is pure and holy, with no ulterior motives. He always desires our higher good. If a parent in the other home chooses evil, it is God’s job to handle the situation. Not yours.
 
But what is your role in the meantime? Are you supposed to sit around and passively wait for more persecution?
 
No, the answer is to become aggressive with good. When wicked behavior is running rampant, it feels like it is in control. However, God’s Word tells us that good is more powerful than evil.
 
God does not say that doing good to others will help us tolerate their evil. He says that we can overcome it. “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:21
 
Light overwhelms darkness. Hope triumphs over discouragement. Love casts our fear. It is our task, in the face of evil, to offer good.
 
Why? Because good invites repentance. Consider Romans 12:20 “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” The phrase “heap burning coals on his head” referred to awakening the conscience of another. With good, we can melt the heart of evil with burning shame.
 
Constantly repaying evil with good holds a mirror up to the perpetrator reflecting only their evil; in some cases, this will bring about a change of heart.
 
I’ll never forget receiving a call from a woman I’ll call Jill 2. She had recently remarried and needed some marital counseling. But what caught me off guard was the fact that she was referred by her children’s bonus mother, Jill 3. “I have come to trust Jill 3 and her recommendations,”
 
Jill 2 said. “But it didn’t start out that way—when she first married my ex-husband, I thought she was the enemy and I was threatened by her. But she has proven herself time and again to be decent and pure of heart. I actually consider her a friend at this point.” Wow! There is power in stubborn goodness, and prayer.
 
But what if repentance does not happen in the heart of the destructive parent?
 
Then their behavior is between them and the Almighty. In the meantime, you may suffer much at their hand, but you must trust God to do what is right and to see you through the trial. Remember you can not change anyone!
 
And what do you get for your obedience? Another place in scripture concludes that the Lord will reward those who do good to those who are evil.
 
“In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you.” Proverbs 25:22
 
The evil of some parents can be overcome in this life with good, others cannot. Either way, the LORD will notice your sacrifice and reward you.
 
Until then live this way:
 
Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Romans 12:14-20
 
Trust the Lord and He will see you through!
 “Whoever gives heed to instruction prospers, and blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord.” Proverbs 16:20

 

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For This Reason Marriage Ministries

P.O. Box 742

Colleyville, TX 76034

Thank you and the Lord bless you for your prayers, love and gifts of support.

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There is still a group of us gathering Monday thru Saturday for one hour of prayer at 6 am, you can join us by phone if you are interested in joining us please Contact Us so I can give you more information! Remember that is 6:00 am CST.

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For This Reason Marriage Ministries has helped countless thousands of married couples by ministering Jesus' reconciling power to the separated, the divorced, the unsaved, broken families and couples that are hurting. The proof of our ministry is in the countless married couples lives we have had the privilege to help and the husbands and wives standing for their marriage today despite their friends, family and even brothers and sisters in the Lord telling them to divorce. Divorce is not the answer and we teach couples how to reconcile, stand and believe that nothing is too great for our GOD and how to be "In Love Forever".

The biblical concept of marriage is that marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman to live together in mutual love and respect for the glory of God, until death do them part.  Marriage is not about us, so it is not about me.  It is about God and His kingdom.  God ordained marriage as the foundational unit of society and everything is built on marriage.  Marriage, done God's way, creates the safest and best environment in which to rear children and covenant principles of marriage are based on steadfast love - looking out for the interest of each other.  They are about seeking to encourage and support each other, throughout life not just when you feel like being in the covenant, because you are "in the covenant" whether you feel like it or not and so we teach to please the Lord with your love, care and commitment to Him and to your spouse.

Thank you for visiting inloveforever.org. It is our sincere desire to bring hope to your marriage situation regardless the circumstances! Below you will find a powerful weekly teaching on covenant marriage done Gods way.

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