Welcome to For This Reason Marriage Ministries:

We are Pastors Fred & Norma Aguilar and we are so excited to have you be a part of this powerful marriage ministry!  We have made it our mission to help couples to stay in love forever and revive their marriages.  We provide Spirit-filled, Christ-centered training and counseling "couple to couple" in the home.....where God intended His presence to abide as the foundation of our marriages. The Word of God is clear "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." Gen 2:24

WELCOME TO THE WEEKLY MESSAGE "STANDING ON GODS WORD" - 11/07/2018

Glory to The Lord & Blessings Upon You...

Pastors
Fred & Norma Aguilar

ACCOMPLISHING TASKS TOGETHER -

"Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God-this is your true and proper worship." Romans 12:1
 
This is where REAL LIFE happens in a marriage. When couples accomplish the tasks of life TOGETHER, they free up time to pursue other interests, enriching their relationship.
 
Athletes have to practice their fundamentals, whether they have an audience or not and whether they feel like it or not. They do the mundane things when no one is looking. They have to fight through the times when it's just plain work. What athlete wouldn't like to take a break from those fundamentals? Yet they become tremendously important in the final moments of the game.
 
If we're investing in making our lifetime relationship mutually beneficial, the little things, the fundamentals, have to be accepted. Paul challenges each of us to offer our bodies 'as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God'. We also practice selfless giving.
 
"For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you." Romans 12:3
 
Jack made a good living for his family of 3. Together he and his wife, Jill, had decided that when they started a family Jill would be a stay-at-home mom. She left her career to raise their children two months before their first child was born. Over the past couple of years, however, Jill has felt increasingly devalued by her husband. It appears to her that he thinks she plays all day.
 
It's true that she has more choices, schedule-wise, than Jack does. She can work a women's Bible study in among the cleaning, cooking, chauffeuring, and grocery shopping, while his work setting doesn't afford him that freedom.
 
However, if Jill asks him to assist her with some tasks, Jack' response is increasingly sarcastic. He seems to insinuate that she's inept because she hasn't accomplished everything on her list. When he does help, he grumbles and complains all the way through the task. Jill finds his attitude torturous to endure.
 
The final straw happened at a Christmas party at Jacks' place of employment, when he joked in front of Jill and a coworker that demeaned homemakers.
 
Jill was hurt and angry. As they drove homes, she told Jack that she was too upset to discuss the incident at that time. She asked him to set an appointment for the next day when they could talk about his comment, and to prepare to finish this sentence for her at that time, 'If I were to admit that what you do is work, I________________'
 
When they sat down the next day, Jack had both a different attitude and perspective. He had taken his wife's assignment seriously. The first thing he did was to apologize to Jill for the put-down the night before. Then he said, 'I resented the sentence completion assignment, but it also haunted me. I woke up this morning with it on my mind, and I think I've clarified a few issues in my thinking.' With that he handed her a paper on which he'd written the following:
 
IF I WERE TO ADMIT THAT WHAT YOU DO IS WORK:
- I'd be more willing to help you.
- I'd express my gratitude regularly
- I'd acknowledge that you make my life easier.
- I'd be amazed at your stamina.
- I'd understand your exhaustion.
- I'd see how mundane many of the tasks are that you have to complete.
- I'd understand some of your frustration.
- I'd see your need for a creative outlet.
- I'd change my attitude that I'm the only one doing anything valuable because my work has a paycheck attached to it.
- I'd ask God to forgive my arrogance.
 
Jack and Jill reached for each other. Jill thanked him for taking her request seriously. Jill acknowledged the load Jack carried at work. She expressed gratitude for his faithfulness to the family financially. She expected to do more of the chores, at this life stage, because she was home with the children.
 
Together they decided to make a 'Chores Are a Bore' chart. What chores would Jack willingly take on as his responsibility? They decided to try their plan for one month and then review it.
 
Jack also asked Jill not to comment on his cleaning styles unless he asked for her advice. He said, 'I hate getting criticized for not doing it your way. It brings up feelings I had as a little boy when my mother got upset at the way my room looked.' Jill agreed to stop trying to change the way he did things.
 
Then she asked, 'What do we do if we forget to do what we promised?'
 
After a few moments, Jack came up with a plan. 'I think the person needs to apologize because they've let the 'team' down. Then I think he/she needs to do one chore on his or her partner's list.' They shook on that agreement. A then seal it with a kiss and a confession of Love for one another.
 
This conversation was a turning point in their relationship. Regularly, they reevaluate if their plan is still working for them. With each stage of life and as more children have entered the family, the 'Chores Are a Bore' list has been revamped. They now have their routine down to an art form. The rewards have been their sense of teamwork, more free time to enjoy together, and an increase in affection.
 
Some working couples agree to share housework more or less equally. Others budget money to hire someone to take over some of the household chores.
 
Whatever your situation, we'd like to challenge you to adopt the slogan for Nike athletic shoes, 'Just DO it!'
 
There's a difference between SAYING you care and SHOWING you care. Once in a while, surprise your spouse by doing an extra chore quietly and graciously.
 
"Be especially careful when you are trying to be good so that you don't make a performance out of it. It might be good theater, but the God who made you won't be applauding. "When you do something for someone else, don't call attention to yourself. You've seen them in action, I'm sure-'playactors' I call them-treating prayer meeting and street corner alike as a stage, acting compassionate as long as someone is watching, playing to the crowds. They get applause, true, but that's all they get. When you help someone out, don't think about how it looks. Just do it-quietly and unobtrusively. That is the way your God, who conceived you in love, working behind the scenes, helps you out." Matthew 6:1-2 The Message
 This couple still once in a while send us their chore list to see if it is still fair...

 

Jesus loves you so much!

 

Please if you would like more information on how to join us for prayer on the phone line, email or call and I will provide you with what you will need to join us!

 

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Will you prayerfully consider supporting For This Reason Marriage Ministries with a year-end contribution in response to the blessing we have been in your life? No gift is too small. The Lord can use the $5 gift as much as He uses the $1000 gift.   
 
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We are here to help and offer phone/ Skype counseling. Just visit the Contact Us link on our website. If we can help, please call us at (817) 605-8133 or email us to request more information on our marriage seminars, retreats that help save and build marriages.

For This Reason Marriage Ministries

P.O. Box 742

Colleyville, TX 76034

Thank you and the Lord bless you for your prayers, love and gifts of support.

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There is still a group of us gathering Monday thru Saturday for one hour of prayer at 6 am, you can join us by phone if you are interested in joining us please Contact Us so I can give you more information! Remember that is 6:00 am CST.

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For This Reason Marriage Ministries has helped countless thousands of married couples by ministering Jesus' reconciling power to the separated, the divorced, the unsaved, broken families and couples that are hurting. The proof of our ministry is in the countless married couples lives we have had the privilege to help and the husbands and wives standing for their marriage today despite their friends, family and even brothers and sisters in the Lord telling them to divorce. Divorce is not the answer and we teach couples how to reconcile, stand and believe that nothing is too great for our GOD and how to be "In Love Forever".

The biblical concept of marriage is that marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman to live together in mutual love and respect for the glory of God, until death do them part.  Marriage is not about us, so it is not about me.  It is about God and His kingdom.  God ordained marriage as the foundational unit of society and everything is built on marriage.  Marriage, done God's way, creates the safest and best environment in which to rear children and covenant principles of marriage are based on steadfast love - looking out for the interest of each other.  They are about seeking to encourage and support each other, throughout life not just when you feel like being in the covenant, because you are "in the covenant" whether you feel like it or not and so we teach to please the Lord with your love, care and commitment to Him and to your spouse.

Thank you for visiting inloveforever.org. It is our sincere desire to bring hope to your marriage situation regardless the circumstances! Below you will find a powerful weekly teaching on covenant marriage done Gods way.

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